I will have to confess I fall in line with most of the population in that I don’t enjoy household chores. Ironically, I would even rather clean up someone else’s mess than my own. I remember in college a friend of mine being surprised I had to go clean up my apartment – it seems his mom taught him everything had a place and you put it back immediately so you don’t have to clean – who knew? Yet as I sit here today in my 40s, I still constantly struggle with the battle of clutter myself (as anyone who has visited my home could serve as a witness.)
As a professional counselor though, I know that children gain much more than just satisfaction from a job well done. They gain independence and confidence (two necessary ingredients for successful launching) when they have the skills even after struggling to take care of themselves and dare I suggest others.
Because of these reasons and so much more, I am committed to teaching my children that contributing to our household is not only a requirement but also something that can be done with a willing heart.
I first introduced this concept to them as toddlers with an I Can Do Chores Kit that we used at the center where they hung pictures on hooks and put them in a slot at the end of each day. (Pinterest is full of these ideas as well as age appropriate chore lists). I will confess with very little ones mine was a half hearted attempt at best but I believe still helped introduce the idea that there is an expectation in this home that you will work. No adult is going to wait on you and clean up after you after entertaining you.
We then progressed to checklists on clipboards. After listening to Dave Ramsey and his daughter, Rachel and reading Cleaning House, we now have an app called Our Home (available for Google and the Iphone) with fun rewards and a daily commission that can be earned.
If you have never introduced this idea and don’t have a family structure like family meetings (more on this topic in an upcoming post), you may have some resistance but here is are my words of encouragement. Your perseverance will be felt by your children and will be worth it!
I am determined this summer to increase my consistency in this area and am implementing some new strategies for our entire family.
I am determined this summer to increase my consistency in this area and am implementing some new strategies for our entire family.
5 Helpful Hints if You Struggle with Chores
1) Use music to lighten the mood and let the kids be involved in choosing it but take turns. We call it the clean up boogie. I would encourage you to remind yourself that you are the “CMO” of your home (Chief Mood Officer). I confess I have to psych myself up because often I want to join them in their dread.
2) Give praise for specific actions. One of my favorites is “I like watching you…” (wash dishes, pick up with a happy heart, help your brother, etc).
3) I learned from A Mother’s Rule of Life, that working on cleaning up the area you are in at the moment (especially when it comes to mealtimes) can help you figure out a routine that makes practical sense if your children and home are more spread out. Ideally, we don’t leave the kitchen area until it is cleaned. Everytime I break this rule, I regret it. If someone is finished with his or her part, he or she can work in the family area or help one of us still working. Another example of this is I have them take clean clothes up and bring dirty down at the same time twice a week.
4) In Cleaning House, I learned that putting out an easily managed (for mom) and visible payment system helps with motivation. We have 3 jars on our kitchen counter – one for each of my children and one for me. I put seven one dollar bills in their two. If they have everything done that I require (which is floors picked up in their rooms, bathrooms and our downstairs living areas), they keep their dollar. If they don’t, it goes in my jar – they still have to pick up but I’m paying myself for checking up on them. I do not expect perfection and usually walk through before bedtime as mine are still in training (ages five and eight). I point out missed items and give them a chance to quickly correct any issues, but am not very lenient because I feel as an employer I have a responsibility to train the future workforce and know the kind of people I desire to hire.
5) Start slow and add. If this idea is new or your children are young, I would pick just a very few items to start with and grow them as your children either age or mature. If you are scattered, you may need to add the job of supervising this procedure to the more detailed adult in your home or set an alarm or calendar reminders for yourself.
Resources (click on the photo for more information)
Pinterest Chore Board
I’m looking forward to hearing from you! Comment below and share with us your plans for both your flexible summer schedule and also any tips you have for implementing chores and overcoming kid resistance.
Coming Soon: One of my intentions for this summer is to disciple my children. I will be sharing resources on how I plan to accomplish these interactions in my next post. I will also be including resources for education as well in case spiritual development is not on your list this summer.
First I LOVE the CMO (Cheif Mood Officer) that is so true. I had a question on the chore chart, what is Potty ORKO?
Orko is our dog 🙂 On the new app, it says walk the dog since it’s summer and we have more time.
I’m working on my CMO right now. We are doing checklists after having friends over.